Is Your Marriage Suffering From Emotion Abuse? Save Your Marriage Now!

Think about it. As we drive down the street the car in front is driving a couple miles an hour slower than we are. Automatically we become frustrated. We call the driver all sorts of names and even call his ancestry into question. We seethe and fret and fume until we almost burst a blood vessel. And all of this because in our minds we are the perfect driver. And this idiot ought to get off of the road. Where did he get his drivers license anyway? Out of a Cracker Jack box?

Now let's take it a bit closer to home. Have you ever been washing the dishes only to be told you did not know what you are doing? First you have to rinse them, then stack them, then fill the sink with just perfect water temperature. Then add this many squirts of Dawn. Nothing else will clean as well as Dawn, don't you know? And don't rinse them in hot water. Use cold water. Dummy. Don't you know any thing?!! Sheesh!

Now I ask you. How many folks are washing dishes daily and have been for years? How many of them follow the exact formula your spouse laid out for you? NONE! That is right. A big fat Zero. And you know what? All of those dishes still get washed and none of those folks died because someone's magic dish washing formula was not used.

If you are the one doing this sort of judging and controlling (it is actually emotional and psychological abuse), can you see how destructive this is to your marriage? How would you react to your spouse doing this? If you happen to be the one helping, how often will you continue to offer your services if you are abused in this way? Not many would be my guess.

Can you see how if you are guilty of this behavior why it could be a cause of divorce. I would just throw my hands in the air and tell you to do it your own self. And so will they, sooner or later. Probably sooner than later. It may have already happened and you wonder why they no longer help with chores.

Listen up. If this is happening in your marriage your marriage is in big Trouble. With a capitol T. You will soon harvest what you have been planting. And you have no one to blame but yourself. If you want a sure fire cause of divorce, just be this person.

A much better way and by far more productive, tell your helpful spouse what a great job they are doing and how much you appreciate their help. When you see how much they try to please you because you support their efforts, you will wonder why you never did it before.

One of the best descriptions I have found is, Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy; love is not boastful or vainglorious, nor does it display itself haughtily.

There's enough causes of divorce in every marriage. Please, please, please do not demean each other and make them feel stupid and incompetent by treating like they are. Anyone can tear another down. Only a select rare few can truly build another up. Which on are you striving to be? What are you doing to save your marriage?

Remember, no one wants to be told they are stupid incompetents. Save your marriage today. Live and help live.

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Justin knows the agony of divorce and the incalculable damage it causes. He writes for those hurting, those who want to save their marriage. Common Causes of Divorce Part 1 and marriage tips.