Being Overly Critical of Your Spouse Is A Common Cause of Divorce

One of the most common causes of divorce is being critical of your spouse. 

When you bestow words of kindness and encouragement upon them you are blessing them. You can speak well of and to your spouse through and uplifting and edifying compliments. You can bless with the small courtesies you used when you were courting each other.

How can you uplift and edify your spouse in this age of hub-bub rushing to earning a living? When there is not even time to catch your breath?

Do you know you are making choices almost every second or even micro second of your life? You make them so fast you do not even know you are making them. Unfortunately one of the most common decisions is the decision to be critical or pass judgment. Pay attention to your internal dialogue now and see how often your making that decision.

Do know, to make no decision is to make a decision? Do you know there is great power when a decision has been made, with conviction?

You can begin by making a decision to never again criticize or complain to our about your spouse in thought, word or deed. Do know there never has been a thing before there was a thought? I know you have heard it before. Sow a thought reap a word. Sow a word reap a act. Sow a act and reap a habit. What are you sowing in the garden of your mind?

Remember, nothing ever happens until action is taken. Talk is cheap. Sow the deed until the habit of no criticism cannot be broken. Believe it or not, this one key could save your marriage.

Do you spend as much time studying your spouse now as you did when courting? Are you paying attention to them or are they just window dressing now? Spend some time studying them now. Develop a sensitivity for their strengths and weaknesses. Now, spend some time to discover creative ways of building up and strengthening your spouse in their weak areas.

I know you have heard you are what you eat. Do you also know you are what you think about? We already saw how thoughts become things. Now is the time to look for those positive qualities of your spouse, every day. What are those things you admire and appreciate that caused you to marry them? Make a list and express thanks for them several times a day. Tell your spouse you appreciate them as well.

You can also consistently lavish appreciation and praise upon your mate in your own specific and unique way. But do it.

Pay attention to what your spouse does and who they are. Not only show your respect for them but tell them so about their accomplishments. Be attentive and appreciative of all they do for you every day. Do not take their acts of kindness for granted.

DANGER! DANGER! DANGER!

I cannot stress this enough. If you are one of those who take pleasure in criticizing your spouse one or the other or both of will soon be thinking D-I-V-O-R-C-E. Once this happens, you can take it to the bank, this thought will eventually become a thing. Is it the kind of thing you want in your life?

There was a very wise old man who once said, Go into marriage with your eyes wide open. Go through marriage with your eyes half closed.

I think this simply means, if you want to save your marriage, see the cup as half full as opposed to half empty. In other words. Look for and see the positive and good things about your spouse and turn a blind eye toward those things you may want to criticize.

Didn't someone once say if you are without guilt you can cast the first stone?

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Justin knows the agony of divorce and the incalculable damage it causes. He writes for those hurting, those who want to save their marriage. Common Causes of Divorce Part 1 and marriage tips.