Just broke up? You’re probably thinking, “I miss my ex boyfriend”. If you’re reading this article, chances are, your very own love story has met a sad end. You’ve probably spent a good part of the day pining over what you have lost, and thinking about where you have gone wrong. You’re probably even contemplating of ways to get your old partner back. It’s only natural. It’s not your fault to feel that way.

What to Do to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back:
1. Start with yourself. Forget about your ex for one minute and think about how you can enhance your good points.

2. Celebrate yourself for who you are and work on achieving some deep-seated dream you have that doesn’t involve your ex.

3. Get yourself on the road to self-betterment. Look at yourself closely and identify your strengths and weaknesses. If you feel that you would want a better career, go for it. If you feel that you need to work on your self-esteem, find ways to address it. Try and work through whatever it is about you that makes you unhappy.

4. Get in touch with friends and family. Don’t stay cooped up at home thinking about what you think you have lost. Rather, concentrate on the positive energy around you, and don’t stop yourself from being happy. Remember that a happy person is more desirable than a sad sap. Seeing you hold up so well might make your ex think about what he or she has lost instead of the other way around.

5. Participate in activities that you truly enjoy. This will keep you busy and stop you from stressing about the break-up. It will also take your mind off your ex, even for a short while.

6. If you bump into your ex, be civil. This may be a very hard thing to do, especially if the break-up was not done properly. However, by keeping a friendly attitude towards your ex, it opens you up to the possibility of reconciliation. Bear in mind that this is a work in progress. If you feel you are not ready to face your ex, don’t force it; otherwise, you stand the risk of making an utter fool of yourself and alienating your ex for good.

7. Don’t date other people if you feel that you aren’t ready, but do keep yourself open to light social encounters. Don’t be afraid to have coffee with someone new. After all, coffee is just coffee. Dinner is a big step and if you feel it isn’t the right time, don’t do it. Never start going out with another person just to get your ex jealous because this is immature. It also sends out the wrong message to your ex—that you are no longer available, and any chance of getting back together is gone.

8. After ample time has passed, try broaching the subject of getting back together with your ex. Be honest about your feelings.

If you’re still thinking, “I miss my ex boyfriend”, maybe it’s time to get back together.